Tell The Truth (What Are You Looking For???)

Proverbs 18;22 (KJV)

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord.
(That one is for my Brothers)

Proverbs 20;6 (KJV)

Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
(That one is for my Sisters)


Good Morning. Glad to see you all decided to take this next step in the "Relationship Week" part of this Fellowship. So, today I intend to encourage the portion of us who find ourselves asking that all encompassing question that seems to never get answered, 'Why can't I find that "good" one?"
Honestly it can be answered with a question, but the question I would ask would cause y'all to run like a theater full of movie goers who just heard someone scream Jesus. On to the presentation.

***IF SENSITIVE OR YOU KNOW YOUR FEELINGS GET HURT EASILY, DO NOT CONTINUE. THIS IS FOR THE ONES WHO CAN HANDLE HEARING ABOUT THEIR OWN SHORTCOMINGS***

First thing first. We all know that God created marriage, for he performed the first marriage. Genesis 2;20-24 shows us that God understood that a man was in need of companionship, and formed the exact being necessary for Adam. Then sealed it with the statement of, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."
We now understand that marriage should and IS SUPPOSE to be our goal when looking for that "good" man or woman. Okay, let's proceed. If I am moving to fast, catch up.....

Fellas!!! Be honest: What do you want? And, do not whip out that standard list of adjectives you learned by copying off of all your married friends and folks in the congregation. Nope! That don't fly. You know what I am asking. Remember, in my past blog (Why Her), I stated that if we were not walking with Christ, and even some of who are right next to him, we tend to have this mental photo of who we looking for? That is what I mean. Do you have your heart set on that chick? Is "Tangerine" your vision of good? C'mon now, we say we having issues with FINDING the good one!!! Maybe its because we have an issue with where we looking? You ever thought about that?

The Proverb says that the 'Whoso findeth a WIFE findeth a GOOD THING'. Not, 'Whoso searcheth through STRIPPERS findeth a BOMB HEAD NURSE'. Yup! I said it!! It had to be said!!!! We all know this to be the world's truth. Most of us men are having difficulty FINDING because we take it upon ourselves to SEARCH. Searching ain't never yeilded one GOOD THANG. You get what I mean...

Sistahs!!! Y'all just like us. Can see the hard working man. Will acknowledge he he has a sensible head on his shoulders. Will even comment on his calmness, "I haven't ever really heard him raise his voice or act ignorant with any woman. He even has a good relationship with his mother."
All his attributes ARE seen by you, but for some odd reason...... that one over there. That Tayquan..... ooooooo!!!!! He just can get it! It is something about him. The way he walk and that SWAGG. Yeah, he act a lil' ignorant every now and then, but that's because he ain't met you yet. Yeah, he don't never seem to be going anywhere: always on that same corner, but you could show him some new things. Sure, he has two or three different kids, by two or three different women, but hey "everyone ain't perfect" is your thought. And, you were witness to him and his mother slap-boxing each other, cussing at one another last Sunday, as you left church, but they did seem to be playing.... at least you thought that as you rolled by. I think creative liscensing of a thought has made its point.

Again the Proverb reads, "But a faithful man who can find?"
Why is it difficult for you, Sistah, to find this faithful man? Why is it that you, who desires so much to have a long standing, committed, honest, marriage cannot seem to find that man? Maybe you suffer from the same condition the Brothers suffer from: SEARCHABLE-ITIS. When YOU are the sole focal point of your search, then..... well, you understand. What God is saying through this Proverb is that you cannot depend, trust, or rely on you. C'mon Sistah, tell the truth. You fickle. Your mind, as great as it is, can allow for some seriously insane activity to be conjured up. For that fact alone, you should understand the Proverb is your 'tale of caution'.


Which brings me to the bridge of the today's encouragement:
Proverbs 3;5-7 (KJV)

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, abd depart from evil.


There really doesn't need to be too much put with this Proverb. We see exactly how, on this subject of relationship; trying to find the "good" one, we should allow for Christ Jesus to have control of this part of our lives too. Look, I know the difficulty in even pondering the aspect of releasing control to Christ. I mean, I know what I like! "What if Christ doesn't bring me what I like?". That is the thought. We being honest about this right? Let me know if this is too much... I will pause for you to gather your things.

We have to come up to that place God has been raising us to. No more playing below the radar. Brothers, its time to just confess the fact that what we have allowed into ourselves, through those certain, past, 'tricks', is not beneficial to the process by which Christ is operating to get you to your "GOOD THING". And Sistahs, please discontinue that eyesight that says, "I can fix all of what is wrong with him. Once he gets with me, he will have to change and then he will want to marry me." All the while you are allowing your spirit to be deminished more and more, allowing this sweaty-neck dude to jump and down on top of you, possibly ushering you into the line up of his own personal starting five. Release yourself from that degredation. Walk over to where Christ is at and ask him how you are to think, how you are to 'look'. Begin to allow Christ Jesus to set the standard by which you go and find that "GOOD MAN".

As I close today's encouragement, I ask that both of you (Brother and Sister), begin to study some scriptures that will lead you in preparation, if not out right walk you smack dab into that "good" one. They should lead you to see the attributes you should be able to see within the man or woman you are looking for. These have been present, for us, and sometimes I say to myself, "I keep forgetting to read and see if she lines up." Not that there has been alot of 'shes' since 09. LOL I am told I give women the blues.... HAHAHAHAHA Whatever that means. Anyway, reading and studying these respective scriptures should be of great assistance to you. Enjoy the rest of your day, and see all y'all tomorrow.

For my Brothers: Read and Study Proverbs 31;10-31

For my Sistahs: Read and Study Ephesians 5;25-33


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